I hope you all are okay and enjoying the beautiful weather * it is beautiful right now, where I am and I am just soaking it all up*
Just last week, the Time Magazine had a cover that got people talking. It was the picture of a mother breastfeeding a 3 year old boy. Most people were really bothered about the cover. Some people commented on the look on the boy's face * these boobies belong to me hehehe*, some on the fact that he is no longer a baby and still nursing, others on the probability that the boy might be bullied as the boy who nursed forever when he goes to school and some on the cover caption," Are you mom enough?
We had our share of the cover debate in our home too. The lil' miss practically weaned herself off the breast. She never enjoyed taking breast milk from the bottle so when I resumed work after 4 months, my days breast feeding her were numbered. She gave me a month and afterwards, she just refused to be nursed. So daddy thought that was the way all kids roll. Welcome baby No. 2, at 1year he was still nursing full time. My husband couldn't understand it, he was like, shouldn't he have stopped nursing by now? After forced withdrawal, he was finally weaned at 15 months. So with the TIME cover, it sparked the conversations again.
I haven't read the TIME article yet, but what I gathered from TV is that the article was talking about Attachment Parenting as explained by Dr. Williams Sears who redefined the relationship between mom and baby, the author of The Baby Book and other parenting books. This form of parenting advocates bonding with baby before and after birth, breastfeeding baby as long as he/she wants it, sleeping with child on the same bed, wearing baby in a sling instead of carrying them in strollers etc.
Most of us have enjoyed derivatives of attached parenting * though it wasn't called that*. We were breastfed even to our toddler years * maybe I should speak for myself*, we co-slept with our moms and we were carried on the back wherever she went* more for convenience than the thought that they were practicing attached parenting* So this form of parenting is not new to us. So why are they making it an issue?*spoken like a Nigerian woman* Maybe TIME wants to score a double goal of pitching moms against one another and at the same time sell copies? Or maybe they just want to bring an awareness to this type of parenting. I guess I need to read the article to find out and then do a proper post.
Anyway, it is the desire of any parent that their child grows up to be strong, well adjusted, compassionate and independent. Whichever way they decide to parent be it by attachment or by tiger method, as far as this goal is achieved, they are happy.
So what do you think of this TIME cover?