Thursday, April 30, 2015

Appreciating Now


I was walking back from the bus stop with one of my neighbors whose youngest child is 13 years old, and she was telling how she couldn't believe that her baby boy is now a teenager. After swapping where-did-time-go stories, she said one of her regrets was, not living in the moment. She was always thinking of the next thing to do while not enjoying the one she was doing. She was thinking of all the activities and sports he will do when he grows up and right before her eyes he is knocking on 9th grade. I guess in a way she was reminding me not to take this time for granted too, because they grow up fast.

Most of us are guilty of this attitude. Not being in the present. Not absorbing and enjoying NOW. Society wants to know what we will be up to  in 5 years time. We spend so much time dreaming about what our dream life would be and when we get even a little bit close to that dream, we are already tweaking it and moving on to the next one. We are always on the move. Living for the big and exciting things, forgetting the little things

Today , I am going to be more conscious of my moments; And really enjoy them; And yes, even when bad things happen, accept that they were just bad moments and there are still many moments in the future to enjoy.

April is the month of poetry
We've enjoyed reading and writing
Today is  a poem in your pocket day
Enjoy this piece of Shel Silverstein
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Wednesday, January 21, 2015

It's National Hug Day!!!

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I love hugs.
Hugs make me feel warm and fuzzy inside. They make me feel protected, safe and good generally. Research says  there are so many benefits we can get from hugging. From boosting oxytocin levels to increasing serotonin which is the happiness hormone. Hugs relieve stress and can also help to ease the loneliness of depression.

Today is national Hug. This is a coupon for you. Pass it on.

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Everyone needs a hug.

Virginia Satir quotes - We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.source

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Thursday, January 15, 2015



The much awaited 2015 is here. May it be a good one.

 At the end of 2014 and the beginning of 2015, people have already claimed this year as their year of greatness and big things, the year of getting things done, the year of prosperity, the year of no more *siddon look, and so on and so forth. Those who make resolutions have made them * and the countdown to breaking them is already on, sorry*.  These days we rarely make resolutions, the trend now is to have "word of the year". I have heard words like Focus, Consistency, Getting it, Grace, Abundance etc. Nutty J had a list of things not to do in 2015. No matter how you look at it, everyone feels there is room to do better and that is a good thing. So I wish everyone a good 2015.

As for me, so far, I have made no resolutions neither do I  have a focus word of the year but I know I have to do more. I should probably spend sometime getting things in perspective. Or is it too late? Better late than never *abi.

Once again, Happy new year! May 2015 be filled with beautiful moments, treasured memories and abundant blessings.


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Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Hello December

Hello December !!!

Last month of the year, you can still cross some items off your things-to-do-2014 list.
Those who planned to lose weight, you still have 27 days;
Those who planned to get closer to God and family, it is not too late;
Those who planned to read more this year, you can still get at least one book in;
 Those who planned to do something new, you are not left out
You get 27, You get 27, everybody gets 27 * in Oprah's voice*
Maybe not everyone gets 27 but my point is that as far as there is still life in you, you can do something.
Just start now.

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Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Kids before Spouse?


I know, I know, Today is not Monday. I just wanted to put it out there that I just love Mondays. Or maybe I should rephrase that and say, I love Mondays till 3pm. Monday is my chill day. The day I spend doing something for me, which most times, is sleeping in after everyone leaves the house, or curling to read my book, having a shower or sometimes on occasion soaking in a bath in peace with no child coming to wait for me or ask if I am okay because I have stayed in there too long. For 6 hours, I am Okeoghene and not Mommy and this gives me a high and keeps me sane for the week.

Hope you guys had a great weekend.

This past weekend while visiting with friends we got into the discussion of which relationship comes first in the home, the one you have with your partner or the one you have with your kids. Everyone agreed that both relationships are important but I noticed that more women chose the kids instead of their spouse. Their argument was that children are being molded and need more attention than their husbands and of course the man will understand , because he should also be giving the same attention to the child; I was shocked when someone said all men want is sex  and that doesn't last  long anyways.

For me, yes children are important but  what you have with your spouse ranks higher.  As a parent I am supposed to be a model to my  children. The home is the first place where the child experiences what a family should look like. Children are visual sponges, they are seeing and they are absorbing. They are also testing boundaries and they want everything and everyone to revolve around them. However I choose to handle the relationship I  have with my spouse  affects our kids. I might think I am doing so much for my kids, taking care of their needs and them, but there is nothing like being a good example of what a strong marriage should look like; what team work should look like, what showing love, respect and affection should look like. Both of us, our union, should teach them this.

Keeping my husband in the  "understanding-pot" on the back burner will not make him happy. He will feel neglected. He is not just my room mate but my partner and my lover. Making my spouse a priority teaches my children respect of self and others. I don't want my child growing up  obnoxious, thinking  he  is the sun and everyone should revolve around him. It is my job to teach him and what better way than for him to see it at home?

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Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Long time no post


 Happy November!!!

I really need to do better.

 Disclaimer here, not belittling the lesson behind the prodigal son, but sometimes these past few weeks, I could totally relate with the dude on going back to his father after his adventures. I had a hard time putting up a post because I didn't know  how to write my comeback post. What would I say? Should I do a post - post or I should I just say hi and come back with a post? Would anybody still be here to  read the post if I do? Am I  disciplined enough to blog consistently? I had so many questions and doubts dancing in my head.  I love to blog and I actually miss it when I don't. I miss the family here and all the beautiful connections that were budding before my inconsistency killed them.

Anyways I am back and I am going to make out time to blog this time. It won't just go into my "when I am free"folder, but will be in my "just do it " folder.

Hope everyone is doing ok?

PS: Can you believe it is 50 days to 2015?
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Thursday, September 18, 2014

....and summer ends.


It has been forever and day. Seriously I didn't mean to stay away for this long. Maybe just for the summer but I planned to come back immediately school resumed. That was exactly 2 weeks ago. I hope everyone is doing well, learning a little something from the challenges of life. I am doing very good. We had a very busy summer. I thought with the kids in summer camp most of the time, that would equate to more time for me. I wish ! Before I could say jack, they were back home and poof went the time. We had a swell time all around  but according to my children's account, it wasn't a full vacation because we didn't leave upstate. Not even a trip to NYC?! *in my 6-yr-old's voice*. She thinks every vacation is not complete without a trip to the beach.

One thing we did a lot of this summer was read. We read lots and lots of books. Our local library had a summer reading program with the promise of a goody bag at the end. That motivated the children to read and that made me happy because I love to read.

These are some of the books we enjoyed.


My son loved this book so much, I bet we read all the Froggy books this summer and listened to the audio at least 10 times.


My daughter lost a couple of teeth this summer and this was a good read. 


I Didn't Ask to Be Born (But I'm Glad I Was) Bill Cosbybill

This was an easy-street read. I totally enjoyed it.

Looks like summer is over but not officially till 22 or  23rd September. We are already in the cool down season * my favorite*. We plan to read more in the coming months. I would appreciate any recommendations.

Enjoy the rest of the week .

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