Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Summer!!!

Summer! Summer!! Summer!!!

Finally!!!

We had the last day of school yesterday and today is officially the start of  vacation. Normally we would be preparing for summer camp but not this year. This mommy is taking on the job of providing entertainment and activities for the whole summer. Yay!?Already I have a little fear about how we were going to cope till September.  I hope I won't need a vacation when they resume back to school.

So what is my plan? I will come back for that.



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Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Sneaking in

Sneaking in here like I was never gone.....

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Really I was never gone though. Just that the way my days are set up, I only get see what is going on here at the end of the day from the tiny screen of my phone.

I know Nitty never gets tired of talking about Nigerian cultures, the ones that should be discouraged and encouraged;
I know  @ilola has the devils agenda in a spoken word piece, which even though she can't perform now, she is still letting us in on the secret * or not so secret*
I know that thisfavoredwoman whose only goal is to seek God in everything shared a beautiful message from Genesis.
I know fluffycutething has a birthday coming in a few weeks and is feeling all kinds of ways.
I know Sisi and Bobo took Chief to church on Sunday and they all looked gorgeous in the pictures.
I know NaijaScorpion
graduated and she really loves her new apartment.
I know T.Notes was almost late for work one day while trying to dish on office politics.
I know Blogoratti transcends sometimes during meditation.
I know Berry had a beautiful date night at Rhapsody's.

So, I was never really gone.

Hope everyone is doing okay? Making the best of situations, learning something new everyday, reading or at least trying to read.... We are doing good over here and so glad that the weather has changed and summer is almost here, finally! Sometimes I miss just having dry season and rainy season.

It is good to back here. * I will leave it like that so I don't jinx it*

PS: I hope GoodNaijaGirl is doing okay. So unlike her not to post every 6th day.
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Thursday, April 30, 2015

Appreciating Now

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I was walking back from the bus stop with one of my neighbors whose youngest child is 13 years old, and she was telling how she couldn't believe that her baby boy is now a teenager. After swapping where-did-time-go stories, she said one of her regrets was, not living in the moment. She was always thinking of the next thing to do while not enjoying the one she was doing. She was thinking of all the activities and sports he will do when he grows up and right before her eyes he is knocking on 9th grade. I guess in a way she was reminding me not to take this time for granted too, because they grow up fast.

Most of us are guilty of this attitude. Not being in the present. Not absorbing and enjoying NOW. Society wants to know what we will be up to  in 5 years time. We spend so much time dreaming about what our dream life would be and when we get even a little bit close to that dream, we are already tweaking it and moving on to the next one. We are always on the move. Living for the big and exciting things, forgetting the little things

Today , I am going to be more conscious of my moments; And really enjoy them; And yes, even when bad things happen, accept that they were just bad moments and there are still many moments in the future to enjoy.

April is the month of poetry
We've enjoyed reading and writing
Today is  a poem in your pocket day
Enjoy this piece of Shel Silverstein
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Wednesday, January 21, 2015

It's National Hug Day!!!


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I love hugs.
Hugs make me feel warm and fuzzy inside. They make me feel protected, safe and good generally. Research says  there are so many benefits we can get from hugging. From boosting oxytocin levels to increasing serotonin which is the happiness hormone. Hugs relieve stress and can also help to ease the loneliness of depression.

Today is national Hug. This is a coupon for you. Pass it on.

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Everyone needs a hug.

Virginia Satir quotes - We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.source




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Thursday, January 15, 2015

2015




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The much awaited 2015 is here. May it be a good one.

 At the end of 2014 and the beginning of 2015, people have already claimed this year as their year of greatness and big things, the year of getting things done, the year of prosperity, the year of no more *siddon look, and so on and so forth. Those who make resolutions have made them * and the countdown to breaking them is already on, sorry*.  These days we rarely make resolutions, the trend now is to have "word of the year". I have heard words like Focus, Consistency, Getting it, Grace, Abundance etc. Nutty J had a list of things not to do in 2015. No matter how you look at it, everyone feels there is room to do better and that is a good thing. So I wish everyone a good 2015.

As for me, so far, I have made no resolutions neither do I  have a focus word of the year but I know I have to do more. I should probably spend sometime getting things in perspective. Or is it too late? Better late than never *abi.

Once again, Happy new year! May 2015 be filled with beautiful moments, treasured memories and abundant blessings.

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Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Hello December

Hello December !!!

Last month of the year, you can still cross some items off your things-to-do-2014 list.
Those who planned to lose weight, you still have 27 days;
Those who planned to get closer to God and family, it is not too late;
Those who planned to read more this year, you can still get at least one book in;
 Those who planned to do something new, you are not left out
You get 27, You get 27, everybody gets 27 * in Oprah's voice*
Maybe not everyone gets 27 but my point is that as far as there is still life in you, you can do something.
Just start now.


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Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Kids before Spouse?

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I know, I know, Today is not Monday. I just wanted to put it out there that I just love Mondays. Or maybe I should rephrase that and say, I love Mondays till 3pm. Monday is my chill day. The day I spend doing something for me, which most times, is sleeping in after everyone leaves the house, or curling to read my book, having a shower or sometimes on occasion soaking in a bath in peace with no child coming to wait for me or ask if I am okay because I have stayed in there too long. For 6 hours, I am Okeoghene and not Mommy and this gives me a high and keeps me sane for the week.

Hope you guys had a great weekend.

This past weekend while visiting with friends we got into the discussion of which relationship comes first in the home, the one you have with your partner or the one you have with your kids. Everyone agreed that both relationships are important but I noticed that more women chose the kids instead of their spouse. Their argument was that children are being molded and need more attention than their husbands and of course the man will understand , because he should also be giving the same attention to the child; I was shocked when someone said all men want is sex  and that doesn't last  long anyways.

For me, yes children are important but  what you have with your spouse ranks higher.  As a parent I am supposed to be a model to my  children. The home is the first place where the child experiences what a family should look like. Children are visual sponges, they are seeing and they are absorbing. They are also testing boundaries and they want everything and everyone to revolve around them. However I choose to handle the relationship I  have with my spouse  affects our kids. I might think I am doing so much for my kids, taking care of their needs and them, but there is nothing like being a good example of what a strong marriage should look like; what team work should look like, what showing love, respect and affection should look like. Both of us, our union, should teach them this.

Keeping my husband in the  "understanding-pot" on the back burner will not make him happy. He will feel neglected. He is not just my room mate but my partner and my lover. Making my spouse a priority teaches my children respect of self and others. I don't want my child growing up  obnoxious, thinking  he  is the sun and everyone should revolve around him. It is my job to teach him and what better way than for him to see it at home?


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