Monday, March 25, 2013

I will keep in touch

I heard or found out something that kept me in the dumps today. It made me realize one more thing that I need to work on my self.
You know that friend who rarely keeps in touch? That person who no one really knows what is going on in their lives cos they tend to live on their own "island"? Or even when they know what is going on, it is very general things, no serious details? I bet you will see my picture to that definition in the dictionary * if there is anything like that* I am so bad that I can lose my phone for days on end and not panic that people cannot reach me or I cannot reach people.I am bad like that. * covers face in shame* I remember when I first got married, my MIL was happy that at least she will get someone that will be calling her frequently cos her son is not the calling type; Oh boy, she didn't know she was getting a daughter worse than her son in that department.

Today, I found out a very good friend I had growing up, passed on 2 years ago. We met in primary school and we hit it off fast and became friends. We lived on the same long stretch of street, we had birthdays days apart and we had a passion for books, most of our mates then didn't understand why we would even read for pleasure. She made head girl and I was so happy for her cos she deserved it. She was a people person, most people felt comfortable in her presence, I felt very comfortable in her presence. She was like a sister. We lost touch in secondary school cos I moved up north while she remained in lagos; University brought us together again and it was fun again. After school, I blamed it all on trying to settle down, getting a job and all that. That was how we lost touch. Today she crossed my mind again, I decided to use Google* ever-ready* and I found out, she had passed...... May her soul rest in peace.

It got me thinking, I have to change and reach out to people more. Thanks to social media, you can practically find most people these days and today I used my Facebook account * which I rarely use* to look up some old friends and send messages. It felt good. Even though I am anonymous here, I get people who still reach out to ask how i am doing and to come put up a post. I really appreciate it and even though I might not respond, I appreciate and I resolve to change; I will keep in touch.



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25 comments:

  1. Honestly, this touched me. I may be just the same as you. I make the decision to be better and then I fall back. My family are used to me, my MIL don tire, but I keep trying.

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    1. Thanks Myne. My own MIL is beyond tired, but whenever she gets a call from me, it feels almost like Christmas to her.

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  2. Good thinking... am glad it made you rethink. I sure do make effort to stay in touch either through watsapp, fb, txt or phone calls. etc.

    Perhaps writing in a diary will help or the lists of things to do. Just a quick call or so will do the trick. x

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  3. I can be as bad but i try my best to keep in touch. God gave me amazing friends who don't judge me but i'm working on it too :)
    May your friend's soul rest in peace

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    1. Thanks Toin. Nothing like amazing friends.

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  4. I am worst than you o!
    I try, really do, but I get bored with such.
    Sorry about your friend.

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    1. Thanks, seems like we are many in this boat.

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  5. Keeping in touch is so much hard work for me but i'm trying my best.

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  6. To help me stay connected or in touch with friends, i actually set reminder for once or twice a month because it doesn't come naturally.

    Sorry about your friend,. May her soul RIP.
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    1. Thanks. The reminder is a brilliant idea.

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  7. Sorry about your friend, may her soul find rest.

    I can be very bad at keeping in touch too but I sent reminders every now and then

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    1. Amen. Setting reminders is the way forward for me now.

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  8. Sincerely, I fail in this department too atimes, claiming to be overwhelmed by busyness. I want to improve o.. So help me God.

    - LDP

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  9. So sorry about your friend. The older I get the harder it is to keep in contact with old friends. We get busy with our families, our careers, our clubs/organizations. It truly is important to take time to remember our friends. I'm sure all the people you reached out to were touched and felt uplifted that you remembered them! You have inspired me to reach out to some of my old friends I haven't talked to in a long while!

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    1. Thanks Amy, and yes they were quite pleased that I reached out.

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  10. So sorry about your friend. This made me think because I'm the same as you. But as we know better, we do better. Always a work in progress. Keep your chin up and stay blessed.

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  11. Sorry about your friend

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