Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Sexting II

So I had typed this long "turanchi' about Sexting and an argument I had with someone yesterday when I had to go for a diaper change and the little madam decided it was her turn to operate the laptop and she managed to delete my work. I had resolved I was going to put up something today regardless. Hence my question.

Thank you to all who have already responded to my one- liner. I really appreciate it.

One of the gist in the news this week is a Congressman who exchanged sexually explicit text messages and photos with a woman, who is not his wife. Initially when the photos of his "Okotete" came out, he said his twitter account was hacked and denied . Eventually he confessed that he was actually sexting a woman and when the photo got to the public , he panicked  then he lied. Sexting is a vice/hobby of the congressman cos he also confessed that he had been sexting several other woman for the past 5 years but he has not met up with any of them. He says his wife knows of his pastime but she didn't know of this recent one and people the wife is pregnant for him.

Now some guy was like everyone sends sexts and it was rather unfortunate that the congressman got caught but they shouldn't skin him for that.  After all that is one of the dividends of technology. He didn't hook up with any of the women, so the bottom line is that he did not cheat. I was like WTF?

a. The guy is already committed to someone else in marriage. He gave up that right to share his crown jewels with anyone but his partner.*except maybe in an open relationship, though I don't know how those operate*

b. He also betrayed his wife by lying not just to her but his constituency. A relationship built on lies will sometime crumble. It is just a matter of time

c. Even if twitter, Facebook and all the other social networks are signs of technological advancement that doesn't mean that they should be miss-used. The fact that a knife can be used to cut meat doesn't mean it is right for you to kill with it

Now I wonder why someone would want to send  pictures of themselves nude to someone else. Who wants to see it? Some people might say, it is okay to send photos as long as you are not committed to anyone. But really is it wise? What will be your plan when it comes out, cos it will, it is just time. The internet and all that comes with it is good but we shouldn't forget that what we post therein remains forever. Say you are dating someone and you decide to exchange nude pictures and maybe the relationship doesn't work out. What would you have gained? Let us be wise when we post things on the internet else we be haunted in the future.

13 comments:

  1. Well,sexting is obviously cheating and sending nude picture of ones self to someone else isn't reasonable.

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  2. Sexting or sending nude pics of yourself is wrong. No question

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  3. 'PAUSE, THINK BEFORE YOU HIT SEND' Chikena!
    I don't tire for all this social media, new technology troubles. You'll think people would have learnt by now.

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  4. Taking nude pictures of oneself is wrong, sending it to someone is degrading yourself!

    Sexting is cheating and there's no justification for it... adultery starts from the heart, you're guilty the moment you think those things how much more when you nurture the thoughts by sharing it!

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  5. This is a big one that questions our morality, what's the world turning into? whether its face book or twitter or whatever...sexting is so not okay.

    http://thediaryofafatnaijagirl.blogspot.com/

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  6. Even if we send we should cut our faces off *LOOOOOL*

    Great post and words of advice there, if only we listen

    Mena

    http://efemenaoreoluwa.blogspot.com/2011/06/scandal-in-blogsville-treating-latest.html

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  7. I think it's wrong and it's stupid. Once you put something out there it is out there for all to see especially if you are a public figure. The women he sent things to could have easily passed them on to someone else. He was arrogant to think it would all stay hidden.

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  8. Its so sad especially for his wife..I dont understand why he had a hard time admitting his mistake or maybe he didnt know how bad social networking can get if not use wisely..

    I do hope young people are learning..

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  9. #gbam I don't joke at all. It's not even funny. Even if you guys are dating, seriously what if you break up? You go to FB one day and there lies your few mins of fun. No messing around abeg!
    Ffg now dear, please check mine too
    WWW.janylbenyl.blogspot.com

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  10. It's only a matter of time and God will once again teach us the meaning of right and wrong because we have lost it.

    Will Sexting continue to be wrong if the Congressman wakes up tomorrow to sponsor a bill that makes it legal just like same sex marriage?

    As a matter of personal opinion,sexting is cheating!It's only a matter of time and God will once again teach us the meaning of right and wrong because we have lost it.

    Will Sexting continue to be wrong if the Congressman wakes up tomorrow to sponsor a bill that makes it legal just like same sex marriage?

    As a matter of personal opinion,sexting is cheating!

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  11. It is so a sin! I agree...
    Why should we do that with someone we're not married to? I understand if husband and wife are having fun checking themselves out in photos...

    - LDP

    PS: thanks for ur visit to my blog. I appreciate you :)

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